Okay, so I'm going to dive into my personal life here a bit. I'm sure some of you nosey Nellys out there are dying to keep reading - I know I would be - but I wanted to give fair warning that I'm about to share more about me than usual. Here goes.
It was for the best, really. We had plans to move in together but it was for the wrong reasons. Luckily, a few moments of clarity saved us from jumping into something neither of us was ready for.
Since the break up, my life has taken some strange turns.
You'd think with an event like this, things would slow down and even out a bit. Well, not with me. My life is always a whirlwind, and I couldn't love it more that way!
Here's a snapshot of what's been going on:
- I've been given numerous new opportunities at work.
- Without mindfully trying, I've lost five pounds since the break up. I've even been less stressed and eating more than usual. I know, I don't get it either.
- My travel schedule is packed, between business and skydiving, I might be home a total of 5 days in the month of September. Seriously.
- I'm heading to SkyVenture New Hampshire in October with some very experienced jumpers. I might be slightly intimidated, but feel lucky to have been invited along!
- I was recently told by a close friend that he is happy to see the "old Ashley" back and that "bitchy Ashley" is gone. It was pointed out that old Ashley came back a few weeks ago...um, wow.
Am I really that bad at being a part of a couple that I'm only at my ideal weight, personality, and level of opportunity when I'm unattached?
If so, what does that say about me?
I can't really imagine my life without the craziness and rapid change - that's just sort of how it's always been. Maybe a little tamer when committed relationships are involved, but still highly active none the less.
All I know right now is that I'm excited for what's coming. There are opportunities that lay before me that I never dreamed. Single or attached, I'm one lucky girl.
Cheers!
-A
Sorry to hear about the breakup but it sounds like you are taking it really well. I would be crying into a bowl of ice cream, so you aer a better person than I.
ReplyDeleteThen again, after jumping out of a plane - a breakup probably seems slightly less dramatic.
Perhaps you just haven't met the right guy yet. Corny as it may sound, my husband was my 1st jump instructor. I had no plans to marry nor any desire to, and I was the one everyone predicted would never marry. And yet, within three days, we were pretty much living together, married within six months. Our first 5 years were one long brawl, but separating was out of the question because there's no one else for either of us and since the day we met, there's never been any question about that. I know! You're skeptical. If you had asked me Aug 12, 1982 about this, I'd have been just as skeptical -- but believe me, it happens! So enjoy your freedom until you run into HIM. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about the breakup, but I'm so glad you have some great things going on. I am sure that your change in personality didn't have to do with the fact that you were in a relationship at all, but that it wasn't the right one. When you are this happy and with someone, you know you've found the right guy.
ReplyDeleteHow long will you be in New Hampshire in Oct? Maybe you should make a Boston stop, or if you have time, we could find a half way point??
narm - it wasn't easy, that's for sure. but it was right. thankfully, we left it friendly too.
ReplyDeletejoyfulc - thanks for the kind words.
susan - it is nice that I have a busy schedule. I'll be coming in on Friday afternoon and leaving Sunday. as of now it looks like we'll be flying in and out of Boston. don't have the official plans yet, but i'll let you know. would be awesome to meet up!
buddy, i'm sorry :(
ReplyDeletebut just from reading this i know that this was for the right reasons. now i know why you wanted to get together for wine so badly! haha
gchat me soon and let's set something up!
alexa - thanks, lady. wine would be great. I'll definitely be in touch when I'm back in town from my travels.
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